Saat N3 ini di tulis, emosi aku bercampur baur, marah...geram...terkilan...sedih, suma ada. Bayangkanlah dari end of April apply loan, until now....satu pon tak lepas lagi. Klo yg lepas pon tak bley bagi full loan. Mana nak cekau duit? Skang tgh tunggu keputusan dari 3 Bank. Apsal susah sangat nak lepas? Adakah sebab 'zero' down payment? Atau sebab unstable economic maka pihak bank berhati2 dalam nak approvekan loan? Atau sebab nama hubby tak clear lagi dlm system even keta lama dah habis bayar? tapi kami dah tunjuk receipt untuk membuktikan dah tak der hutang lagi. Gggrrrrr....

Sejak tak der keta ni segala aktiviti terbatas, patah kaki di buatnya. Setakat gi jenjalan yg dekat2 ni ok lagi lah naik motor, klo yg jauh2, nak naik motor gak ker? Kesian kat Iman....gi memana naik motor jer, berpanas..berhujan. Kalau nak balik umah PIL pon harapkan belas ihsan BIL & FIL datang amik. Yerlah...klo atuk dah rindukan cucunya, mesti sanggup datang kan. Dahlah skang musim orang kawen, gathering lagi. Huhuhuhu.....Tak dapek den nak po'ei. Sapa ada keta lebih? nak pinjammm :-)

This morning....aku pakai kasut seperti biasalah. Sambil tunggu hubby start motor. Tetiba...lepas hantar Iman kat nursery, ku rasa kakiku ini seperti di kuis2 oleh sesuatu. Aku buat tak tahu jer lah, andaianku mungkin itu khayalan saja. Sekali lagi aku rasa seperti di kuis2 lagi, terus kepala hotak aku ni berfikir, ada benda ker dalam kasut ni, lipas...lipan...anak cicak? Aku amati lagi betul2, iyer ker ada makhluk yang tak di undang dalam kasut aku ni? Sekali...amik ko, 'benda' tu menguis2 dengan lebih ganas lagi, memang sah...ada sesuatu dan aku pon dah mula rasa geli geleman satu badan. Sepantas kilat, atas motor itu jugak aku bukak kasut & buang 'benda' yg sesat itu. Apakah itu? Aku pon tak tahu dan aku tak sempat nak nengok :-p. Yang pasti...memang geli wei.

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is Broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to Suspicion, Suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in Separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. SheAnswered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut Off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got The number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it Is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the Telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful Marriage. Could you please share with me our secret?" The father-in-lawAnswered in a smile, "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or When she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her Shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband thanYou."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid Of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look Around to find a scape goat to point the finger at. This is the start of a War.We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the Other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and Requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable One." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, Humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to Accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go Out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for Conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened Carefully and Replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a Perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, Because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf Husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and Deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and Discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or Demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all And their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this Is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that"It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's Character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the Spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will Either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of Wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always Forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering If It would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A Worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the Way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You Should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the Millionaire And not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad Relationship.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be Another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the wayHome,A boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked Besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the Head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is On foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

This is a true story. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old sonwas happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognise the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions wetake while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Last week aku gi Poney Warehouse Sale ngan hubby. Kami memang plan nak amik cuti on that day sebab ada agenda lain, bukan sebab nak gi warehouse sale ni. Tapi memandangkan plan yg di rancang tak kesampaian, terpaksalah tukar agenda. Satu hari tu kami tawaf ke 3 Shopping Complex :-). 1st, South City Plaza, 2nd, The Mines & 3rd, Time Square. Haa....amik ko, lenguh segala sendi & urat2 kaki ni.

Citer gi cukur poket kat Poney Warehouse sale. Sampai kat South City Plaza dalam pukul 11.30am. Dari jauh dah nampak ramai orang. Aku rasa dorang amik cuti gaklah. Ramai sungguh umat manusia. Macam2 ragam...dari yang berdiri sampailah duduk bersila kat lantai, ada yg tengah memunggah2 baju, berebut2 nak amik baju, yg tengah buat selection baju mana nak beli, yg tengah buat calculation pon ada untuk total suma baju. Yang kaum bapa2 ni biasalah, tolong jaga anak, permandangan yg biasa kita lihat kat shopping complex bila time sale. Hubby aku plak skejap jer kat dalam tu, baguslah...aku pon tak suka klo dia ada, tak selesa nak shopping :-). Bila dah ramai sangat orang ni otak aku pon jadi blur, tak tahu nak pilih. Finally dapat sambar 5 helai t-shirt. Untuk boy tak banyak sangat choice, klo girl banyak. Bila dah habis geledah tu haruslah nak membayar kan....ha...ni pon azab gak, nak dekat 1 jam haku berdiri. Punyalah panjang walaupun double line & kaunter banyak, mana tak nya...kalau sorang beli dah penuh plastik bag, mesti amik masa nak kira kan. Total untuk suma baju RM74.40=5 helai. Memang berbaloi.